Sunday, October 28, 2012

Venting

When people complain about things that are going on around them my first thought for them is to do something about it.
If you want to move out of the area so you can get away from everyone that has known you for years and knows everything about you then make the jump and move out of where you are. I've done it before. It's never an easy decision. It's often scary. But if you never leave then you don't have the opportunity to grow. Move out of the state you've always lived in, make new friends, get away from some of the influences around you, get out of your comfort zone and be the person you want to be.
If you think about it, often you've gotten yourself in the situations that you are in. Stop wallowing in them and the consequences of the decisions you've made and move forward. Grow up, act your age, realize that you can change your life if you really wanted to.

On another topic-
You told me that you never say never. But that you usually don't keep in contact with those that you break up with. However, there is one that apparently you do. You would have phone conversations with her even when in the company of friends and me. You're apparently hanging out with her now. Your mom even told you that she wasn't a good girlfriend for you. Or was that something that you just told me to see what I would say? Is this the person that you were engaged to for awhile? Is she still with her boyfriend?
Don't tell me that we have too many differences that you can't get over. Don't tell me that you want an easy relationship. That you don't want to work at it. All relationships need work. Relationships aren't meant to be easy. Any relationship is at least trying for. It may not last in the long run but if it doesn't then you can say at the end that you've tried. Even if there are differences, a relationship that is built on a solid foundation can make it. Relationships are also built on compromise, give-and-take. Once this is learned relationships will be so much better.
Beginnings of relationships are awkward. The middle is great. The ending- someone usually gets their heart broken.

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